When you were staring at your parents in disbelief?
The moment when, despite being in a state of misery only ten minutes prior, they’d suddenly perked up at the sight of guests?
They’re laughing and joking and being … really rather fun – a state you’d never witnessed when it was just the family.
So the disbelief is two-fold:
- Your parents crack jokes and seem (dare we attest) cool
- Why aren’t they like that when they’re with you?
With you, it’s all: Why haven’t you cleaned your room? Is your homework done? What did that boy want and why were you talking to him? The chappatis won’t make themselves.
And with the guest it’s all smiles and laughs and you’d never guess what happened …
This phenomenon (which we’ll lovingly call The Pointless Transformation), isn’t just limited to brown parents.
It certainly isn’t a cultural thing more than it’s a dysfunctional parent thing.
And you know it when you see it.
Most of us with parents suffering from The Pointless Transformation will resort to asking: